How to clear your fears yourself

How to clear your fears yourself

If you're scared of pregnancy or birth, here are some options for you if you'd like to try and deal with your fears yourself. I developed the Head Trash Clearance method as a result of my own need to clear my fears around pregnancy and birth. I had tokophobia (the...

Your fears are not what you think they are

Your fears are not what you think they are

Most people think that when you have fears around pregnancy and birth that your fears are related to pregnancy and birth. But the truth is that they're not. Sure, a small amount of fear might be directly related to the process of pregnancy or birth - birth...

Clearing her tokophobia fears. Becky’s story

Clearing her tokophobia fears. Becky’s story

I want to share Becky's story of clearing her pregnancy and birth fears. Everyone's experience is different and we're all a bit nosey - or is that just me 😉 Becky came to me for help with her tokophobia. The thing about tokophobia is that it can often be accompanied...

Clearing fears. Amber’s story

Clearing fears. Amber’s story

Experiencing fear around pregnancy or birth is pretty normal, around 80% of women experience some level of fear. But fears vary; some are low level fears which are easy to bat away, while others can be really problematic and terrifying. Whichever level of fear you're...

Does your anxiety comes from your in-utero experience?

Does your anxiety comes from your in-utero experience?

I recently stumbled on a past trauma that proved to be the key to a lot of the anxieties I've wrestled with as an adult. As someone who hunts down head trash - especially my own - this is a HUGE win for me. When something isn't shifting, I dig and dig until I can...

Do you have a fear of uncertainty?

Do you have a fear of uncertainty?

A fear of uncertainty comes up a lot in my work with my clients. This is because there is so much potential for uncertainty on the journey to pregnancy, birth and motherhood. From figuring out whether you actually want kids or not, to playing the waiting game until...

Pregnancy anxiety and COVID

Pregnancy anxiety and COVID

Pregnancy anxiety and COVID is something we need to be paying more attention to. Pregnancy is a time where many women experience increased anxiety, but now that COVID is part of our lives, more and more people are suffering from anxiety and depression. Pregnancy...

Should I wait until I’m pregnant to address my fears?

Should I wait until I’m pregnant to address my fears?

A common question I get from those who suffer with strong fears or tokophobia is this: should I wait until I'm pregnant to address my fears? My answer to this is NO. And here's why. It could take longer than you think Uncovering and addressing our fears is not always...

When the thought of losing control terrifies you

When the thought of losing control terrifies you

The idea of losing control is terrifying for many. Deep down we believe that we need to be in control to survive so when our sense of control is threatens it can undermine our sense of safety and security. Many don't realise that a fear of flying is often linked to a...

Hate the thought of something growing inside?

Hate the thought of something growing inside?

The idea of something growing inside or having a baby move in the belly is the stuff of nightmares for many women. It’s not all angels singing and babies coo-ing when some women imagine pregnancy. For many it’s downright terrifying and this is often one of their...

The psychology of pain

The psychology of pain

Pain is interesting. At least I find it interesting. I guess that comes from my work in helping women prepare for pregnancy and birth, because pain comes up a lot! In fact it comes up too much in my opinion. More than it should do. And this is because a fear of pain...

5 reasons I hate hypnobirthing

5 reasons I hate hypnobirthing

This is part 2 and follows last week's blog Why I LOVE hypnobirthing.  Before I start I want you to understand WHY I’m writing this. If you are familiar with my Head Trash work, then you’ll know about the importance of opposites, and acknowledging the parts of us that...