Mindset during pregnancy & birth
Scared of birth? Fear is not the only problem.
Fear of birth is big bloody deal. In two ways; The sheer number of women who experience it. Research tells us it's around 80%. Thats a LOT! Being fearful sucks big time. Especially when your fears are strong or phobic. Tokophobia is the extreme fear of pregnancy and...
How to clear your fears yourself
If you're scared of pregnancy or birth, here are some options for you if you'd like to try and deal with your fears yourself. I developed the Head Trash Clearance method as a result of my own need to clear my fears around pregnancy and birth. I had tokophobia (the...
Your fears are not what you think they are
Most people think that when you have fears around pregnancy and birth that your fears are related to pregnancy and birth. But the truth is that they're not. Sure, a small amount of fear might be directly related to the process of pregnancy or birth - birth...
Clearing fears. Amber’s story
Experiencing fear around pregnancy or birth is pretty normal, around 80% of women experience some level of fear. But fears vary; some are low level fears which are easy to bat away, while others can be really problematic and terrifying. Whichever level of fear you're...
Do you have a fear of uncertainty?
A fear of uncertainty comes up a lot in my work with my clients. This is because there is so much potential for uncertainty on the journey to pregnancy, birth and motherhood. From figuring out whether you actually want kids or not, to playing the waiting game until...
Pregnancy anxiety and COVID
Pregnancy anxiety and COVID is something we need to be paying more attention to. Pregnancy is a time where many women experience increased anxiety, but now that COVID is part of our lives, more and more people are suffering from anxiety and depression. Pregnancy...
Should I wait until I’m pregnant to address my fears?
A common question I get from those who suffer with strong fears or tokophobia is this: should I wait until I'm pregnant to address my fears? My answer to this is NO. And here's why. It could take longer than you think Uncovering and addressing our fears is not always...
When the thought of losing control terrifies you
The idea of losing control is terrifying for many. Deep down we believe that we need to be in control to survive so when our sense of control is threatens it can undermine our sense of safety and security. Many don't realise that a fear of flying is often linked to a...
Hate the thought of something growing inside?
The idea of something growing inside or having a baby move in the belly is the stuff of nightmares for many women. It’s not all angels singing and babies coo-ing when some women imagine pregnancy. For many it’s downright terrifying and this is often one of their...
The psychology of pain
Pain is interesting. At least I find it interesting. I guess that comes from my work in helping women prepare for pregnancy and birth, because pain comes up a lot! In fact it comes up too much in my opinion. More than it should do. And this is because a fear of pain...