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Scared of birth? Fear is not the only problem.
Fear of birth is big bloody deal. In two ways; The sheer number of women who experience it. Research tells us it's around 80%. Thats a LOT! Being fearful sucks big time. Especially when your fears are strong or phobic. Tokophobia is the extreme fear of pregnancy and...
Your fears are not what you think they are
Most people think that when you have fears around pregnancy and birth that your fears are related to pregnancy and birth. But the truth is that they're not. Sure, a small amount of fear might be directly related to the process of pregnancy or birth - birth...
Clearing her tokophobia fears. Becky’s story
I want to share Becky's story of clearing her pregnancy and birth fears. Everyone's experience is different and we're all a bit nosey - or is that just me 😉 Becky came to me for help with her tokophobia. The thing about tokophobia is that it can often be accompanied...
Do you have a fear of uncertainty?
A fear of uncertainty comes up a lot in my work with my clients. This is because there is so much potential for uncertainty on the journey to pregnancy, birth and motherhood. From figuring out whether you actually want kids or not, to playing the waiting game until...
Should I wait until I’m pregnant to address my fears?
A common question I get from those who suffer with strong fears or tokophobia is this: should I wait until I'm pregnant to address my fears? My answer to this is NO. And here's why. It could take longer than you think Uncovering and addressing our fears is not always...
When the thought of losing control terrifies you
The idea of losing control is terrifying for many. Deep down we believe that we need to be in control to survive so when our sense of control is threatens it can undermine our sense of safety and security. Many don't realise that a fear of flying is often linked to a...
Hate the thought of something growing inside?
The idea of something growing inside or having a baby move in the belly is the stuff of nightmares for many women. It’s not all angels singing and babies coo-ing when some women imagine pregnancy. For many it’s downright terrifying and this is often one of their...
6 reasons why we’re not a good fit to work together
1. You want to be fixed I’m not a fixer. And I have no interest in fixing you. Asking someone else to fix us is handing over our power to others. It’s like saying “I can’t do this, you do it”. But I’m saying you CAN do it. Sure, you might not know WHAT to do. But...
I don’t want kids – do I have tokophobia?
There seems to be a lot of confusion about what tokophobia IS and what it ISN’T which I’d like to clarify. At a very basic level tokophobia is this: the pathological fear or pregnancy and/or birth. But, this touches on so many other aspects that sometimes it gets...
Which tokophobia program is right for me?
Making the decision to tackle tokophobia is not always easy. It can be scary facing up to our biggest fears. But once you've decided to, then you're faced with another hurdle; deciding who you'd like to work with. And this isn't always easy either. Mainly because...