The Root of Toko: What If the Fear Didn’t Start With You?

I used to believe I just wasn’t “the maternal type”. That something in me was hard-wired wrong — why else would the idea of pregnancy or birth send shockwaves of fear through my body? But what if the real story started long before I was ever old enough to know the...

I Thought I Was Just “Anxious” — Then I Found the Real Root

For most of my adult life, I thought I just had shaky mental health. Constant anxiety, bouts of depression, even a good dose of OCD at times — all of it seemed to come and go without warning, sitting underneath everything I did. But no matter how “together” I looked...

My Tokophobia Story – the birth of all this!

I didn’t know I was living with tokophobia — until my body and mind made it impossible to ignore. If you’d asked me in my thirties whether I was afraid of pregnancy, I’d have told you I was far too busy building my career to think about babies. I wouldn’t have called...

What Is Tokophobia, Really? Beyond “Fear of Birth”

“I didn’t even know tokophobia was a thing… until my whole life started making sense.” For most of my adult life, I thought there was just something wrong with me. Why didn’t I light up around babies? Why did the thought of pregnancy make me feel not just uneasy, but...