I Thought I Could Ignore My Tokophobia… Until I Had to Make a Choice

If you’re reading this, chances are you know that feeling — the gnawing fear that creeps in whenever pregnancy or childbirth comes up. Maybe you’ve always known you were scared of birth, or maybe it’s only just now showing itself, as you watch friends start families,...

The Root of Toko: What If the Fear Didn’t Start With You?

I used to believe I just wasn’t “the maternal type”. That something in me was hard-wired wrong — why else would the idea of pregnancy or birth send shockwaves of fear through my body? But what if the real story started long before I was ever old enough to know the...

I Thought I Was Just “Anxious” — Then I Found the Real Root

For most of my adult life, I thought I just had shaky mental health. Constant anxiety, bouts of depression, even a good dose of OCD at times — all of it seemed to come and go without warning, sitting underneath everything I did. But no matter how “together” I looked...

My Tokophobia Story – the birth of all this!

I didn’t know I was living with tokophobia — until my body and mind made it impossible to ignore. If you’d asked me in my thirties whether I was afraid of pregnancy, I’d have told you I was far too busy building my career to think about babies. I wouldn’t have called...